its been a crazy couple of months with all my friends engaged and scheduled to get married. everytime i get together with friends to catch up on old times, the NUMBER keeps increasing. everyone brings their fiance's and significant others to the meetings... and i usually FLY SOLO or bring another boy/girl friend with me as a "date". so then the Q's come pouring and they think they're being SNEAKY.. hahahaha
'soooo poojaaa... anyone we should be meeting soon?"
"soooo pooojaa... anyone new?"
'sooo poojaaaa... any hot new guys?"
"soooo poojaaa..."
im sooo used to those Q's .. i already have learned to STOP them before they waste their energy finishing that sentence. i stop them and go
"noo, no new guys. im happy being single.. infact i love it".
i think i should make a T-SHIRT that says "single and happy". why is it soo hard for people to believe that if ure single, you can be happy too. while reading Keshi's post "how i met your sucker" - i could totally relate to what she had to say. WHY, am i gonna go be with the next moron that walks up to me and looks interested - when
1. the chances that he's an ass are over 98%
2. he's probably gonna irritate the crap out of me - i am very very picky
3. HE'S GONNA ADD TO DRAMA TO MY LOVELY SERENE LIFE
4. I DONT HAVE TIME FOR A MAN - i leave home at 7'ish every morning and i dont come back until 8pm or even later. where do you want me to make time for a man??
5. i wouldnt even mind giving someone a chance, if he was HALF WAY DECENT!!!
just like keshi said, most of the men in the market are horny ass's -- wait wait, all of them are. if they're not horny ass's, they are some other kind of ASS.
yes i do have those days when i want someone by me to cuddle with, but who doesnt. lol, even when i was with my ex - he wasnt around all the time. so i wanted someone to cuddle with then toooo. i have the same life i did when i was with someone. currently, its just without any tears, drama and emotional stress.
somehow its not only my friends. even my parents or EVERYONE for that matter. once you're a certain age, its inappropriate for you to be single. WHY????
who says i NEED a MAN to support me??
i have a career - i'll be making more than most men i know.
ill have a car, a house, and everything i want.
dont get me wront, i do WANT a man eventually to spend my life with and all that emotional garbage, but I DONT NEED ONE. i dont even like the fact that people think women NEED a man.
so being single and happy is not an oxymoron, atleast not for me. what about you???
are you single and happy??? or is it just a facade?
are your friends/family annoying like mine??
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no no my life is so bad that my married friends sit there sighing over a telephone that they have to do somtehing about it.. apparently its impossible to be too busy to want a relationship.. or be happily single instead of being involved or better yet married to the wrong guy
oh i so agree with u, choco! its not at all an oxymoron. and i think that relationship is a state of mind... i know how it feels like being single and happy and i simply love it.
wen ur starting a relationship, u hav to give some space, readjust things in ur life and its inevitable coz u cant be the same way that u were when single. that space thing is a bit irritating...
and i don't understand why this stupid Indian society man, wen they see a girl with a guy, who she is just friends with, people start raising eyebrows or teasing. cant a girl have a friend - just a male friend?!?! they are always looking to linking ppl and spreading stories!
A great HONEST post from u Choco. I love it.
**i think i should make a T-SHIRT that says "single and happy".
and u should add 'and not desperate so buzz off' to it.
I so know abt those get-togethers/meetings where ppl bring their partners and then qn me JUST LIKE HOW THEY QN YOU. It's bloody annoying. It's like being single is a death sentence. To them it may be. But it doesnt bother me one nano-second of my life so wuts their prob? So Im gonna hv to ask em to shutup next time. Or ask em 'r u really happy together?'. While there r few happy couples out there, there r many others who r just putting up with each other for the sake of not being alone...for the fear of being single.
**the chances that he's an ass are over 98%
LOL and the remaining 2% r gay.
**HE'S GONNA ADD TO DRAMA TO MY LOVELY SERENE LIFE
I so know the feeling. But the one who ur gonna be smitten by wud only make ur life better from what it is right now. I know what ur qn is rite now, WHERE IS HE right? lol! dun ask me cos I dunno hehehehe. lets both wait n see.
** I DONT HAVE TIME FOR A MAN
me neither..cos I work, eat, sleep, dance, lazy ard, cook etc etc whenever I want. And if there's a man in my life, I'd hv no time for all of that.
** i do have those days when i want someone by me to cuddle with,
I feel that way too...but now whenever I think of a cuddle from that supposedly-my-man, I just laugh...cos I know it's a joke LOL!
I dun NEED it too..yes I said IT. Maybe some day i mite WANT it..but if doesnt happen, Im still me and Im a worthy woman of everything that life offers me, regardless of my marital status!
HUGGGGGGGGGGZ!
Keshi.
Well then made absolute sense what you said. But yea some point of time we need another person (preferably of opposite sex hehe) to offload your emotional baggage not necessarily for the physical part. But yea I think relationship is all but that legal license for that crap sometimes it works sometimes it does not. As long as you are happy being single and gay (as in happy :D ) dont worry about the usual desi's there who just cannot have a life by themselves.
So final verdict, Chocs, Single and happy is not an oxymoron :)
And just for records, not all men are "ass". Atleast have some percentage so that you can fit people like me there hehehehe.
Oh BTW i take the liberty to blogroll ya. provided you use the smrt and huggble site for your gyan remarks and comments :-)
No its not an oxymoron at all.
I do have a boyfriend now. But i was quite happy even when i was single.
@aditi: LOL...happy and single, its like an unheard concept. i always love it when people say to you "i KNOW EXACTLY how u feel, remember when i was single too, then i met ____ and my life changed. im soo happy now... you will find someone too"
WHAT IF I DONT WANNNAAAA!!!
hahahha...
@trinnie: "i think that relationship is a state of mind.."
oh soo welll said!!! totally agreed. i mean arent u YOU in a relationship, so cant you learn love that YOU without clinging onto someone --
isnt that being single.. LORD!! I personally dont think you can love someone else and be mature and have a long term relationship unless you love YOU.
@Keshi:omg, totally agree with u. "Or ask em 'r u really happy together?" LOLLLL!!! i would love to see their reaction to it. omg!!!! hilarious...
@vik: hehe yes, final verdict, not an oxymoron. and yes, sometimes relationships are just so you can have someone to whine and bitch to, lol i would love that sometimes. hahahaha i have enough whinning and bitching to do on a daily basis. but i also have my family, friends and well you bloggers to unload on. so got that covered.
lastly -- hahahaha... i wouldnt call you an ass, but you never know, i wouldnt rule you out either. =) i guess innocent until proven guilty.
yes this is the only site i blog on..
@ash: im glad you were happy being single and super glad ure happy in ure relationship. =)
Did i tell you he's Irish and is a hottie ??
whoaaa, whoa whoa there...
IRISH AND HOT almost go together ;)
hehehe... does he have that accent. that accent is super hot!
Oh he does!
Though initially I found it a little difficult to understand!
nice.......!!!
Vik so ur a nice un-ape-like guy. I figured that out too :) So why r all good men so far away from Choco n me? :*(
Keshi.
ooh can i just say i love the irish accent.. i think its soo hot
"just like keshi said, most of the men in the market are horny ass's -- wait wait, all of them are. if they're not horny ass's, they are some other kind of ASS."
???
Adi not ALL of em...I said MOST of em :)
Keshi.
ofcourse u need a man da, whole post you have been cryin out loud 'i need a man, i dont think i will get a good one so i want to believe that i dont need one. and i want to hate men before they hate me!(on a safer side hehe)'
its OK to be independent but that doesnt mean u should dispise men!
and i dont know why now-a-days people think that being independent means hating others!
:D!!
@keshi: hmmm... nice men do seem too far dont they? :(
@aditi: oh yes, miss ash is lucky there - hot irish accent guy.
@adi: just trying to say most men that are available arent nice...
@endevourme: IM IGNORING THIS WHOLE COMMENT. people and thinking like yours is why 'SINGLE AND HAPPY - IS AN OXYMORON'.
i have alot more to say, but i'll keep it to me.
Endevorume whoaaa hold on a sec will ya. U hv drawn ur own conclusion abt Choco (and me perhaps) and thats not fair.
** 'i need a man, i dont think i will get a good one so i want to believe that i dont need one. and i want to hate men before they hate me!(on a safer side hehe
thats called SOUR GRAPES. But Choco isnt saying that. What she's saying is that MOST men she meet r assholes so RIGHT NOW she's single. But she didnt say she's going to be single for the rest of her life did she?
And being independent doesnt mean u hv to hate others. Whoever said that? Im independent and I still do love men...my guy friends, my uncles, my late dad, my cousin brothers, my male colleagues etc etc. It seems u think only in terms of lovers when it comes to Independence and that too on HATE terms. No we dun hv to hate anybody to be independent...it's abt not NEEDING others to survive.
Keshi.
thanks keshi for standing up for me :)..
@endevourme: ITS NEVER ABOUT NEEDING. want is different from NEED. need is something NO WOMAN SHOULD HAVE. one should have enough self esteem enough to NOT NEED anyone in her life. WANTING someone in ure life is your choice and something great.
like keshi said, its not that i hate men. i really dont. i love my dad, my grandpa.. my brother.. my cousins.. my uncles.. my friends. i have more guy friends than i do girls. i just dont like the GENERAL OUTLOOK men have on dating.
being independent is being your own person. thanks for your comment. its important that people disagree with me too. not everyone has to agree with me or my thoughts - you are your own person too. i do respect your comment as well =)
very well-said Choco.
Keshi.
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